I am a single, cis-male/married/older/younger/not sure, am I welcome at the BSPC?
Yes! The BSPC is an all inclusive organization. Our goal is to provide a welcoming space for people over age 18 who are looking to make friends, learn about sex positivity, explore their sexuality or kinks, or just plain have a good time. We do not restrict membership by gender, sexual orientation, age, relationship status, or anything else. The BSPC has a variety of members of all sizes, shapes, colors, ages, and orientations. It is our goal to create a safe and welcoming space for anyone who would like to explore our organization and their own sexuality and kink.
I want to come to a party or discussion group, but I’m shy/introverted/have social anxiety. Should I still come?
Absolutely! Our events are all events where you can move at your own pace. At our discussion groups, some talk a lot, and some sit back and soak it in and get comfortable. Same with parties, it’s fine to come and be a wallflower and talk, participation is not expected or required.
What should I expect at a party?
Many of our parties are loosely themed, but all types of play are welcome at any party. For example, at Bound, our rope-themed party, you are still allowed to do impact play or sexual play etc. Not everyone plays at every party, and some people attend regularly to hang out, see what’s going on, and socialize and play very rarely. Others play every time they come. There is no expectation for you to play or scene, or for what type of play you do if you decide to do something. The parties are generally pretty unstructured. There is a front room and a back room with various play equipment (hard points for rope, a bondage wall, spanking benches, massage table and chair, etc) and people play however they’d like for the most part. There are also social areas, and lots of people come to the parties just to socialize and watch whatever happens to be going on. Additionally, we are a sex positive club as a whole. Sex is allowed both on the dungeon floor and in our aftercare areas. We have towels, sheets, and safer sex supplies on hand for people to use.
Our best advice to everyone new is to come without too many expectations. Come check out the space and start by meeting people in the community. Our parties vary, some people come with a partner or scene already planned and some do come looking to play with someone new. We have a pick up play board where you can write your name if you’re looking for someone to play with.
I’m still a little nervous, which event(s) are good for a first timer?
Our Kinksploratorium, held on the first Friday of each month, is a great event for newbies. This newbie night includes a short presentation on the BSPC, our policies and codes of conduct, and general party and scene etiquette. Afterwards there is time to take a look around the space with the lights turned up, and we have various demo stations set up where you can try things out that you may be curious about. You choose whether to head out or stick around for the Lowdown play party afterwards.
What is attendance like at your parties?
Our event and party attendance vary by the type of event, day of the week, and time of year. We usually have between 5 and 40 people depending on what’s happening. Our members and guests range in age from 18 all the way up to people in their 60s or more. We do tend to have a good amount of college aged people as we are in a college town and a fair number of folks in the 35 to 45 range. But it really is a mixed bag!
Is there a dress code for events at the BSPC?
We do not have a dress code for our events. People tend to dress up a bit more for Cigars, Boots, and Chocolate, the Anniversary Party, New Years, etc., but it is not a requirement. Some people choose to dress up every time, and others come in jeans, or wear nothing at all once they’re inside!
Why are your parties limited to members, guests of members, and reciprocal members?
The BSPC is a 501(c)7 Not for Profit Social Club. Because of our nonprofit status as a membership organization, we are required to be supported by membership fees and dues and to limit non-member revenue to 15 percent or less. Due to these restrictions, we must limit the number of non-members able to attend our events. If you’re looking to come for the first time and aren’t ready to buy a membership yet, you can use the Have a Taste Pass or attend one of our discussion groups, workshops, or educational events that are open to non-members as well as members.